This week while I was at Target doing some last minute "late night" shopping with my daughter the young man that was our cashier was very tall. Having height on my mind lately with my post a few weeks ago on I am Tall. Does that make me scary? - I struck up a conversation with him outside of the normal questions that cashiers say to interact with the customer. He was 17 years old and 6ft. 6' tall.
We joked about the question tall people ALWAYS get, "Do/Did you play basketball?" I could tell this struck a chord with him and not a good one. It made him uncomfortable. He sort of mumbled out that he did once but he really enjoys Theater so that is what he participates in now. I could see the insecurity he felt as he probably got unfavorable reactions to telling people this (remember as a fellow "Tall person" I've been there!). So I embraced this talent and him pursuing his passion and what he loved. By the end of our maybe 5 minute conversation he was beaming. He was looking me in the eye in a way that said, "Thank you. I do love what I do and I am appreciate you embracing it too".
I a few small sentences I hope that I gave this 17 year old boy hope. I hope he gained some courage. I hope by truly trying to connect with him as the person he was and just showing a little kindness, that it made a difference. A good difference. It did to me.....
I wanted to give YOU and big THANK YOU! thank you for chiming in and sharing your thoughts about me and my height and my dilemma. Most of them were geared towards - It's not your height. It's your looks, confidence, etc.
I can HONESTLY say I have been told this before but I just didn't believe it. And honestly, I still don't. I thought for sure it had to be my height. I do NOT consider my looks or confidence or personality to be anything "special" or different than anyone else around me.
So let me just say this before I put this topic to bed :)
Please come up and talk to me. I promise I'm not as scary as I look or come across as. I'm only human. I put my pants on one leg at a time just like you. And we are more alike than you think. And I may just be having one of these days on the inside and hoping that you can't tell....